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\u201cTrust is not built through the act of providing assistance. It is fostered by reaching out for it.\u201d ~Simon Sinek <\/strong><\/p>\n I’ve always been perceived as the resilient sister, partner, and friend.<\/p>\n I never intentionally chose to be the strong one. It was a role that naturally emerged as the eldest daughter, taking on more duties than my siblings. Exhibiting strength and responsibility gained me rewards and kept others close.<\/p>\n I\u2019m the go-to friend when there\u2019s turmoil, the one who rejoices in your achievements, the supportive friend, the motivating friend. I dedicate hours to conversations, needing days of quiet afterward. I follow up later because that\u2019s simply what I do.<\/p>\n I’ve never questioned whether I\u2019m a good friend or what I desire from friendships.<\/p>\n Simon Sinek suggests the Friends Exercise<\/em>: inquire of your closest friends, What makes you my friend?<\/em><\/p>\n Initial answers will likely be superficial\u2014loyal, enjoyable, good at listening. However, dig deeper; the essence lies in how they feel<\/em> in your company, where your genuine influence is found.<\/p>\n I reached out to my four dearest friends.<\/p>\n The feedback: wonderful, understanding, inspiring, genuine, fun, motivating. Their encouraging comments filled me with pride.<\/p>\n Yet, a sense of discomfort emerged.<\/p>\n Why are my friendships lacking emotional depth?<\/p>\n I contemplated my openness with them. Do I seek assistance? Can my friends express vulnerability with me? Even though their responses were heartwarming, I found myself speculating about their actual sentiments. I reflected on their willingness to support me.<\/p>\n This revelation was unexpected.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s what I\u2019ve come to understand.<\/p>\n Aside from moments of anger and frustration, I do not bring emotions into my friendships. We promptly resolve conflicts, quickly shifting into problem-solving mode and reassuring each other it’s fine before the conversation concludes.<\/p>\n My friendships resembled my romantic involvements\u2014they were emotionally detached. I unknowingly created a circle of similar individuals.<\/p>\n While exploring a book about friendship, I recognized I had postponed platonic intimacy instead of nurturing it. I consistently showed up, responded to inquiries, and provided space but failed to cultivate closeness. I occupied a role, rather than fostering a relationship.<\/p>\n My friendships centered around my identity and my contributions. I wasn’t open, concealing frustrated or sorrowful aspects from friends despite our long-standing connections. I perpetually played a role. This awareness gradually emerged, but eventually became clear all at once.<\/p>\n During my childhood, I didn\u2019t have friends in the conventional sense\u2014no sleepovers, no outings, or being someone\u2019s confidant. I spent a significant amount of time alone, developing self-reliance in forging connections, steering clear of neediness, and being valuable without demanding upkeep.<\/p>\n \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cTrust is not built through the act of providing assistance. 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The Pattern Concealed Behind the Strength<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Where It Truly Stemmed From<\/strong><\/h3>\n