I don’t like to be lied to. I like Authenticity.

As a consequence I mainly act with everyone the same way. I am just being myself. I am trying to be like an opened book in which everyone can read, no matter who they are for me or what they represent. I present myself to the whole world the same way.

Of course if you are close to me, you will know me more in depth. But if you are just meeting me for the first time, and you are asking me very personal questions, I will answer them to the best of my ability.

I like to think that I have nothing to hide anymore.

I like to think that life is happening for me, not against me.

I don’t want to protect myself from life anymore, as if something bad was going to happen. I just let the flow of knowledge and information pass freely through me to others, not being too much concerned about what could be thought of what I am saying.

I have lied to myself so much in the past, I’m done with that now.

Well this is what I thought. Recently I had to rethink about my choices.

Someone I love is knowingly asking me to lie, or to elude part of the reality, to protect her. What should I do? Is it compatible with my willingness to be authentic? Is it really a protective behavior to choose to ignore part of the reality? Why am I wanting to be truthful with people in the first place?

I think I will always choose the painful truth rather than a sweet lie.

And so to be coherent with that statement and myself, I am trying to always deliver what I consider is the truth to the people that are surrounding me.

Because I don’t want to live in an illusion of beautiful lies, I assume that others don’t.

But this time someone is asking me to lie. I do not like this situation. Does the decision to tell the truth to someone only belong to me? Or should it be a shared decision to take together with the person I want to talk truthfully to?

At the end of the day, I am chosing the truth over lies to avoid suffering. But if someone else consider the truth more painful than the lies, and my original intention is to create the least possible amount of suffering for others, maybe I should respect that decison and hide the truth.

Struggling to take a decision

It is so not me, and it is going so much against my beliefs, that an inner conflict is arising in me. I want to respect the person’s decision, but at the same time I don’t want to feed an illusion in that person’s life. I don’t want to be part of her attempt to escape the reality of life.

Every day of my life I am striving to help people face their own lies and move toward the truth.

Because I believe the truth sets us free. It is enabling us to face what we are uncomfortable with, and then change it if we want to. The light of truthfulness is allowing us to become conscious of things in our life that might no longer serve us. Only when we are conscious of something, we can act on it and decide to let go of it if it brings trouble in our life. I believe the truth is giving us the choice.

The Truth is empowering.

It allows us to have strong foundations to create our experience of life. I do not believe lies provide a good foundation to live life to the fullest.

Shared between that request I have received to hide the truth and my desire to be authentic to myself and others, I don’t know how to behave anymore.

But there is one thing I know for sure, lies are temporary and the truth is eternal.